This is at the heart of my comment related to occupying an unshared reality. It seems that opposing positions don't agree with their opponent's on what measures either supports. Feminism (some excluded I am sure) is not misandry, even if you believe it is. And Men's Rights Groups (some excluded) are not chauvinist fascist.
I am a man who is a feminist. I don't agree with the presumptions of most MRGs, because most of the forward facing groups I encounter aren't actually for addressing the inequality of male roles within society and law, but seem to actually be about attempting to deconstruct feminism. It also seems wildly apparent to me that my female counterparts with whom we share society have less opportunity, suffer greater violence, and are more likely to encounter vocational discrimination than men. I also don't think misandry is nonexistent. I think there are strong arguments to be made that the pendulum on custody rights has swung too far from preferring men and has left fathers extremely disfavored by the courts in this respect (at least in the states). There are other areas where men suffer inequity as well. However, when I look at society as a whole it is easily demonstrable that women endure more systemic injustice. This is not to say that I don't support addressing the inequity of all. The same way that acknowledging racism doesn't mean I think white people never experience race based prejudice in America.
Misinformation is extremely volatile and damaging to democratic society. Both sides suffer from consuming misinformation that is amplified by the loudest most extreme voice on either end. If you think feminism is the hatred of men or even the promotion of women to the exclusion of men then I recommend that you read the works of serious academic feminist and gain a better understanding of their agendas and the legislation they push to achieve it. We all need to stop listening to those attempting to hijack causes for their own purposes.
That's the "advertisement" I was eluding to. It sounds nice and looks good on the pamphlet but it doesn't accurately reflect reality. You are of course free to believe otherwise. There is an exodus away from feminism. Even the percentage of women who self-identify as feminists is abysmally low (there is UK census data to back this up if you are interested). This trend is contradictory with what you purport feminism to be. They are selling you
wolf tickets.
I can't take any movement or group seriously when they promote ideas like the gender pay gap, which immediately falls apart under any level of reasoned scrutiny. Or the fact that we live in a "rape culture". Rape is despised. Rapists are viewed as the scum of the earth by men and women (even in prison). It's nonsense.
As for your serious academic feminist (that's low hanging fruit so I'll refrain from making jokes on that), a year or two back a couple of professors demonstrated what kind of nonsense academic feminist/gender journal articles were spewing forth. They fabricated a bunch of fake papers using feminist/gender buzzwords and submitted them for publication. A few of them were actually accepted (try that with an accredited Physics journal!). To give you a perspective of what kind of nonsense they incorporated in order to make their point, one of the papers was a copy of a chapter of Hitler's Mein Kampf with keywords replaced with feminist/gender buzzwords and theories. Their most famous one was about dog parks and rape culture; you can see one of the Professors talk about it here (there are many more longer videos that you can easily find for yourself)...
On a more anecdotal level, a decade back I had a very close personal female friend of mine take a women's study course in university (one of those forced "electives"). I trust this woman and over the years I've never had any reason to suspect that anything she has told me was untrue. After she finished the course, I asked her about it. She said it was disgusting man hating. She was shocked at the things they were able to get away with. She lost all respect for that field of study or ideology. Keep in mind this "information" was coming from a
professor (PhD) in an accredited university, not just some nut job on the streets. Not only that, but this professor and the course in general would have been overseen by countless others.
But once again, (despite my best efforts) here I am arguing over the same tired points that we have quarreled over in the past. Nothing will ever change. No matter how many times we run through this process, I'll still see the same three forum members lined up on the other side of the "battlefield". I'm sure you feel the same way. It's a pointless exercise as all parties have continually demonstrated that they are firmly entrenched and immovable. Furthermore, aside from a few members who drift in and out, nobody else on the forum really cares. Most people sitting on the fence (or simply uninterested) in the topic have zero desire to read through walls of text, whether yours or mine. Rather than waste time carefully writing a response, I could have just as easily replied with something like this
The sad reality is that with today's short attention span, carefully crafted memes, jokes and ridicule are significantly more effective at bringing the masses to your side than pages of thought out argumentation. It might not be "right" but it is quick, easy and effective. I'm
not advocating for the refusal of reasoned debate and discussion, but I do believe there are probably better environments for it. And if your goal is to actually get at the heart of issue (as opposed to winning over bystanders to your side) we've clearly proven that to be pretty fruitless endeavor over the past year. At the end of the day, everyone seems to leave with pretty much the exact same mindset as they originally entered with.
Like I've said before, I'll let history decide who the victor is. At which point, I'll resurrect this thread with a a meme or a gif and someone on the other side will claim that I am incorrectly claiming that the victory proves my point [a desperate but logical move I suppose]. That said, I've called my shot, eight ball corner pocket... I'm happy to let history unfold.
Especially since there isn't one single entity ("they") defining the term (and having an agenda, "advertising" something, etc.)
Are there feminists who just hate men? Sure. Are there others? Yeah.
But there is a
net effect. And it is very easy to speak on that net effect.
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One last thing, conversations like this are a powder keg. A game of Russian roulette. It's not a question of
if things will go wrong but
when. That's not to say I will avoid all such discussions in the future, but at least I hope they are about something that we have yet to discuss ad nauseam.
@Aginor and I were constantly butting heads over Star Wars, until it was agreed that we simply do not discuss the subject with one another. Since then, we have brought peace, freedom, justice and security to our new emp...

. Point is, if this conversation is a powder keg, I'm likely the match!
I tried to refrain from entering the fray (until multiple taggings), but now I leave you to it my friends. Believe what you will. I respect the three of you, but I vehemently disagree with your thoughts and ideologies as they pertain to this particular topic. I have full confidence in
@Scalenex continuing the good fight (
he feels inclined to), and he would do so in a more diplomatic way. Any further call on the NIGHTBRINGER will likely result in memed responses! Be forewarned.
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